Female Sexual Dysfunction

Things to Avoid

1. Getting into a discussion of what's "normal" and what isn't, particularly regarding such issues as "normal" frequency of intercourse. What matters is what the two partners would like or are comfortable with.
2. Taking one's personal experience as the gold standard.
3. Dismissing sexual concerns as unimportant, or saying that time will take care of it.
4. Seeing every sexual problem as having a psychological cause or, inversely, seeing everything as physical. The usual error is that we tend to see (and society in general tends to see) women's sexual problems as psychological or relationship related, while conceptualizing men's sexual problems as having a physical basis.
5. Not getting the partner's perspective.

Last Modified: September 5, 2006